publish your flash menu as html.
open up the created html page in your favorite editor, and copy everything from the opening <object> tag to the closing</object> tag.
open the web page you want to put your flash object into, remove your old menu, and paste you object code into that spot.
make sure when you ftp your page to your site, that you also send your swf file along with it.
for opening pages...
in flash use the getURL() action. you can read more about it in the flash reference.
what the hell was i thinking?